What if I fall in love with the wrong person?

Before men and women can act in harmony together in the wedded state, they must know by their intuitions that they are suited to each other—that they are one in feeling and purpose. 

There must be no doubt, no questioning of this—they must have positive assurance of their mutual love, and of the congeniality, repose and peace they find in each other's society if they would with propriety enter into the more intimate relation of husband and wife. Then very little ceremony and no oath will be necessary to bind them to each other. 

The tie of love in its highest and purest meaning will be firmer than adamant to hold them together—no force could dissolve, no temptation could break such a marriage—for no other could be put in comparison with the one to whom they are already united. 

Such unions as these where true congeniality is found, where wealth, station and beauty have been only secondary considerations and the true affinity has been sought will bear very different fruits than you now see from your many ill-considered marriages that daily take place. 

Harmonious in themselves, their offsprings will be harmonious also. 

Shunning vicious pleasures, their children will be healthy and well developed. The harmonious spirit will have a mortal tenement worthy of it, and the succeeding generations, instead of deteriorating, as they now do, in physical as well as moral beauty, will grow lovelier as they progress. 

The evil passions of your natures when indulged in never fail to leave their impress on the countenance—shall not the good and ennobling virtues of your hearts and souls leave their traces also? 

Assuredly they will and when to these moral virtues are added temperance and sobriety in food and drink and a regular attendance to the laws of health, you will see man approximating to the angels. 

But it will take more than one generation to produce these desirable results. 

As I said before, much has to be undone, much to be corrected and much to be purified. 

The taint of disease cannot be eradicated in one lifetime. 

Children must suffer for their parents' sins.

But if those parents will bring up their children with higher and better aims than they had given to them—they will endeavour to avoid all contention or disputing in their presence, and teach them, from the higher light they are now receiving, the importance of living harmonious, virtuous lives, and still more, the immense responsibility they assume when they enter the marriage state—the necessity they now see that they should not do so unless certain that they have found their true partners, they will be paying the way for the next generation in the best and most effectual manner, and if their advice and teachings are followed out by their sons and daughters, they may live to see some of the beautiful results that will ensue from them.

—Mary Magdalene in Spirit