Saturday, 11 February 2017

What makes me suffer?

What I want to know chiefly is what makes me suffer and how can I get more peaceful, less irritable and more loving to other people? I have such lots of antagonism in my family. I feel as if I could never get over them. It is for these others I am trembling and nervous. Is this my Karma?

There is just one way to become more peaceful and to keep the affairs of the family from worrying youthat is, to realise that you are a child of God and that God not only takes care of you but also of all the family; that what comes to the family is their problem and not yours. And if they ask for the solution, it will be given them. Your only duty in connection with it is to help them to understand it.

One of the greatest mistakes is to worry about what comes to our family or friends. Remember that nothing comes to them that is our personal business. The way to go on under such circumstances is to realise absolutely, and when we say realise, we do not mean merely saying it, but the absolute believing that you are a child of God; that you are in this physical embodiment purposely to learn the lessons most necessary for you; that He is with you and is watching over you. And if you show the right attitude of mind or the true desire to do the right thing, you will not only be helped but will hear the answer plainly or at the very least will be led into doing that which is right.

Nothing can keep us back that is not our business. Nothing can keep us back from lifting the curtain on our own life but it is not our business to lift the curtain from anyone else's life. We must do our own work and be cheerful, happy and helpful but we must not even try to do someone else's work. Suggest, perhaps, what you think is wise and then leave them alone, for each one must take the Karma of what he decides to do. So if we tell others to do something against their will, then, as the old Scotchman says, They will surely be of the same opinion still.

As to your nervous state, first of all, do as we have told you, i.e., mind your own affairs, attune yourself to the God of Love and let all your household and their various duties rest in His great love. Know absolutely that whatever is best for them will come to them and no amount of worry or the disturbance of your own conditions can possibly change it. But pray that they may be enlightened and guided to do and follow that which is best.

Letters from the Teacher, Volume II, Universal Religious Fellowship Inc., Harriette Augusta Curtiss and F. Homer Curtiss, Curtiss Book Company, California, 1924